Practice Simplicity A Short Story

The new disciple is excited when he’s seeing the Master for the first time.  He jumps at the opportunity and curiously asks, “How do you practice Tao, Sir?”

“When you are hungry, eat,” thoughtfully the master says, “When you are tired, sleep.”

The answer is astonishingly simple to the disciple, as he is expecting something sagacious. “Isn’t that what everyone does anyway, Sir?”

“No,” says the Master matter-of-factly, “Most people feed themselves with thousands of desires when they eat; and dream of thousands of designs when they sleep.”

Pondering deep.  The disciple nods his head and is happy with the new insight.


“Manifest plainness,
Embrace simplicity.
Put others first.
Desire little.”

Lao Tzu Tao Te Ching 19


Better To Be Peaceful Than Right

Life can throw many challenges at us. There are times when we combat those challenges headlong, and sometimes we simply let them pass. It will forever be a human dilemma whether to react or stay quiet. Since childhood, we have been told to speak up but I feel sometimes maintaining peace is more courageous. Some people always want to prove their point. They always want to be right no matter what.  Are you the kind of person who always wants to have the last word in any discussion? Is it always my way or the high way?

Limited Approach Towards Life

When we are hell-bent on proving our selves right we negate the argument of the other person. It’s a limited approach towards life when we block our brains from accepting anything different. On the contrary, people who are flexible and open to other’s opinion are more likely to lead a wholesome life. Tolerance and acceptance are the keys to leading an open and happier life. It’s not always possible to agree with others, but that doesn’t mean that the other person is wrong or we are always right. Rights and wrongs depend on the perspective of a person. Everyone is entitled to their own set of morals and ethics, what might be wrong for one person can be right for the other. So where do the dots meet? Sometimes it is worth taking the risk of being of wrong and seeing things from a different point of view.

Peace Vs. Right

If someone asks what you value most in your life? Is it always being right or being in a state of peaceful bliss? I bet your answer would be in a state of peace. In a quest to be always right and to have the last word we end up bargaining are inner peace. A fragile ego will always attack others due to the fear of being wrong. But a brave person is not scared of accepting defeating or being wrong. We need to remember that being right is not the sole purpose of our lives. The true goal of our lives is to dwell in peace and serenity. We need to let go of the desire to be always right and rather work on our fragile egos.

Let’s Not Take Personal

Let’s not take our perspectives and words personally. Let’s not assume our words to be from the mouths Gods. We cant be always right, and there is no need either. Self-righteous people always take things personally. When we are no longer fixated on proving our point we have liberated ourselves from unnecessary stress. The pressure that looms overhead to be seen as right dissipates, instead we enjoy the course of the discussion. We become more peaceful and less judgemental of ourselves. When we abandon the desire to be right, we become better listeners. What ensues further is the dialogue at the deepest level.

Next time if you find yourself in discussion just remember your endeavor is to enjoy it and view life from new perspectives. Simply let go of the need to be seen as right and humbly accept the other person. Take the risk of being wrong and forever dwell in the state of eternal peace.


Significance of Etiquettes

Every period in history is defined by a specific set of mannerisms and etiquettes. One age that particularly comes to mind when we discuss etiquette is the Victorian age. Victorian society was quite concerned with the overall behavior of ladies and gentleman. Although some of the manners of the era were bizarre but were followed religiously. Men and women were expected to adhere to the rules strictly. In the twenty-first century with our fast-paced lives, the word etiquette is fastly becoming obsolete. We believe in living our lives according to our rules. We are not obliged to mold our behavior according to the social conventions. So why are mannerisms and decorum essential in our lives?

What Are Etiquettes?

Etiquettes are treating others with respect. It is having an awareness of other’s feelings. It’s to be civil and mindful of our behavior towards others. It’s much more than wearing a black dress for dinner or keeping fork on the left side of the dining table. It is more to do with our actions and attitude, in fact, it wouldn’t be wrong to suggest that proper etiquettes have to do a lot with our education and upbringing. So why are etiquettes so essential, can’t we live the way we want? Human beings are social animals and cannot live in isolation. We live with our families, within communities, work with co-workers hence there have to be parameters for our behavior. Certain boundaries which define our behavior with others. It is no myth that people who are well behaved appear more attractive and pleasing whereas brash and rude behavior are always turn-offs.

Role of Etiquettes in Modern Society

We have come a long way from the moral policing of Victorians. Etiquettes of today’s world are no longer concerned with walking behind a man or picking up pencil skirts with a right hand, just below the ankle. There is no separate code of conduct for men and women to follow. One word that defines modern-day etiquette is courtesy. It’s all about being civil and being aware of other’s privacy. Our attitude is reflective of education and breeding. Positive attitude instantly draws people towards you for when you smile at the world, it smiles back at you. No one wants to hear a sordid life story or a long grocery list of ailments.

Don’t Put Up With Bad Manners

One of the most frustrating things is dealing with ill-mannered people, and like a swarm of bees, they are everywhere. Bad manners are spoilers and can dampen the mood of any gathering. A lack of decorum is not only disrespecting but is extremely appalling. Good manners don’t imply that one has to put up with the atrocious behavior of others. A dignified person has zero tolerance for bad manners. The golden rule of etiquette is to treat others, the way you want to be treated. However, if you are confronted with someone who is foul-mouthed or brash try not to snap or lose your cool. Be calm and composed when others show their worst because that’s your moment to show your best. Ultimately the good always triumphs over bad.

“ Manners are sensitive awareness of the feelings of others. If you have that awareness, you have good manners, no matter what fork you use.”
Emily Post