Many of us dwell in our past and burn in an inferno of rage and anger. It’s the desire for vengeance in our hearts which makes our lives miserable. Forgiveness extinguishes the fire of revenge and wrath in us. It’s the only tool which can offer us some peace. You must have heard the idiom, poison kills the poison but the only antidote to a wounded heart is forgiveness. An eye for an eye will make the world blind. Life throws at us many challenges and sufferings, keeping a grudge will only act as an arsenal to our burnt heart. Although easier said than done, forgiveness doesn’t come naturally to many of us. It’s but natural we wish to inflict the similar pain on the world as on our souls but at what cost? Forgiveness is the greatest gift that you can give to yourself. Learning to forgive and forget will ensure you a happy and peaceful life. Only the most courageous and patient can forgive their adversaries.
How To Forgive?
Forgiveness is not an easy act; sometimes it’s more painful than the wound itself. However, you have to understand that it’s the only road to peace. Forgiveness sets you from the mental shackles that we have enchained ourselves with. Whenever we attempt to forgive our torturer, we are setting ourselves free from the prisons of hatred and fire. Rather than counting and remembering the wounds, others have inflicted, try counting the right things and acts of virtues someone has done. Count your blessings every day and try to find good in others. Keep your self in other’s shoes and try to understand the perspective of another person. Everyone makes mistakes we should have the strength to forgive them. Learn to forget the follies of others and appreciate them for their virtues and kind acts.
Holier Than Thou
We all are sinners in this world. There is no one in this world who has not committed a mistake or violated a rule. Intentionally and unintentionally we all have hurt others. If there is one thing that we all expect on the judgment day is God’s mercy and forgiveness. If God can forgive why can’t we? The self-righteous attitude will not serve us right; we are equally guilty in front of God. By forgiving and forgetting we are simply getting rid of all the toxic emotions which have hijacked us from our more genuine self. Forgiveness doesn’t mean that we are letting the perpetrator go off the hook, but we are simply liberating our self from any negative emotions. Forgiveness is a choice which will set you free from the hurt.
How To Forget?
The whole process of forgetting is perhaps the most difficult, more difficult than the act of forgiveness. However, there is no point in forgiveness if one can’t forget the hurtful act. If we start counting minuscule little hurts our injuries our life will become a living hell. Forgetting is offering yourself a liberation from a painful memory and ensuring that your future is from heartache and pain. Accept every pain and hurt that life offers you as an enriching experience. Every heartache and wound will make you a better and a stronger person. No experience goes futile in this life.
Someone has very rightly put that, forgiveness is an attribute of strong for the weak can’t forgive. Rather than looking down at the follies of others, it’s better to see within ourselves.